The internet is always a great source of enlightenment. Recently, I stumbled upon an image that captures what makes a “good” father in our era.
An overweight schlub dressed up as the Star Wars character Princess Leia. All done to gratify his little girl who wanted to be Han Solo for Halloween. Yes, there is a certain amount of leeway given to fathers in their relationships with their daughters. Yes, there’s room for goofinees. Yes, there’s nothing wrong with joining in on your children’s games of make-believe.
But you don’t post this story on the odious Good Men Project as the standard for how fathers should act. Especially when you bring in gender theory nonsense to attack traditional notions of masculinity and femininity.
Here’s some of the author’s pontificating:
But, I think, my big take-away from all this will be—equality goes both ways. If I’m going to tell my daughter that she can do almost anything a man can do (excepting some very specific biological acts), then I also need to show her that a man can do almost anything a woman can do too… especially when it’s something awesome like dressing up as a character from one of the best movies ever.
And that’s exactly what I did. Because that’s what dads do.
There are many words that come to mind when looking at this picture. One word that it will never conjure is respect. You can understand why a man would sacrifice a little dignity for his child’s behalf, but you can never respect a man who glorifies his indignity in the name of equality and shattering masculinity.
On the same site, there’s another story about how one father encourages his sons to engage in feminine activities—such as nail painting and wearing tights—in order to help them “realize who it is that they already are.”
While both of these authors are busy pushing themselves as ideal fathers, they forgets the fundamental trait that makes a good father—respect. Respect is the basis for authority. You will not listen to or follow a man you cannot respect. And just like adults, children do not listen to or follow parents you that don’t endear respect.
This is the crucial problem plaguing fatherhood today. Not traditional notions of masculinity.
It is a well-known fact that the media has had a strong hand in subverting the image of the American father. In the 1970s, we had Archie Bunker. In the 90s, we had Homer Simpson. Today, we have Phil Dunphy of Modern Family. The fathers represented in the past, such as Homer, were bumbling buffoons—but at least they had masculine traits. Phil Dunphy is a completely emasculated fool trying to be a “cool dad” to his kids. His kids pay him back in kind. The father figure prevalent media is one you could never respect as a man or a parent.
And Phil Dunphy is not limited to television. I see these dads in real life. Countless times, I’ve encountered them at the grocery store trying to wrangle their kids in effeminate tones to listen to their beta pleas. The kids continue on rampaging in the produce aisle, letting us know he has no authority over them.
Just imagine the children these parents raise. After years of having every request acquiesced and having two “best friends” instead of parents, these kids can only be thoroughly fucked up and have little love for the mom and dad that failed them. It’s no wonder depression, drug abuse, and mental illness are on the rise in bourgeois families. When traditional notions of life are trampled by political correctness and parental authority goes extinct, we have the mentally weak millennials of today. Masculinity is on the decline, and with it fatherhood.
Going back to Mr. “Here’s Your Nail Polish Boys!”, this is how he expects his children to turn out:
But I do know this: one day all of these boys are going to have something important they are need to tell someone. Maybe they are going to need to tell me one day that they don’t want to go to college but pursue their art instead. Maybe they are going to need to tell me one day that they are gay or they and his girlfriend are pregnant. Maybe they are going to need to tell me that they suffer from depression and they feel trapped and don’t know how to get help. If by being open to them and letting them explore their world, by allowing them the opportunity to have as many experiences as possible, if one day that allows them to feel comfortable enough to come to me with anyone of these things or anything else they need in life then I have done my job as a father. I have extended to them the same open-mindedness, compassionate understanding, and love that the people in my life showed me. Then I paid homage to my grandma who gave me that same gift when I looked amazing in her perfume, makeup, and heels.
At least he admits his behavior as a father will likely lead to depression and homosexuality for his brood.
The one small thing that fathers can do to give their kids a fighting chance of having mental health and upright behavior is to act in a way that endears respect. Encouraging crossdressing and celebrating your time as a princess aren’t going to cut it. Children respect strength and authority. They don’t respect weakness and permissiveness. The children of “Good Men” fathers can only end up as weaklings and whores. We want to raise men and women instead.
The Left is fond of saying “fascism begins at home.” Let’s take their advice.